Helping with feeds
Having a new baby can definitely be a frustrating time – for you, because you've got such a big job to do, and for dads, because they feel a bit like a spare part. But there's actually quite a lot dads can do to help, even though they’re not the one with the on-tap milk supply!
- Some mums find expressing milk difficult or painful so this isn't always an option, but if you are able to express milk you should wait until your baby’s 6 to 8 weeks old and used to breastfeeding before you start letting your partner take over some feeds. This should prevent your milk supply from drying up and make sure your baby doesn’t start to prefer a bottle over your breast.
- Getting dad involved with some feeds also helps them to bond with the baby but give it some time – your baby may take time to adjust to this new feeding method, so make sure your partner keeps on trying.
- Taking over one of the night-time feeds if he can, will be the greatest help, as it allows you to have a much longer sleep.
Skin-to-skin contact with dad
A good way for dad to build the bond with your baby is to have skin-to-skin contact with them, just as your baby has with you during breastfeeds. So try getting dad to put your baby on his shirtless chest for a cuddle, or even a quick nap!
Once the bond is built with dad, your baby may feel more comfortable about taking bottle feeds of expressed milk from him. But don’t let dad take it personally if your baby doesn’t take a bottlefeed; some babies simply prefer the breast.
Getting support from your partner
Breastfeeding can be hard work. You’re quite likely to be emotional in the first few weeks after giving birth with little energy for anything more than looking after your baby.
It’s important for dads to be supportive and understanding and to take on the majority of the tasks that need doing around the home, including cleaning, shopping and cooking.